Healthy Relationships

Hi Readers!

This week’s article is about healthy relationships. Now, more than ever, relationships are being put to the test; with extra stress, being homebound, being 24/7 with your partner and house-sharing.

Have you found yourself thinking about what is a healthy relationships, are you feeling like yourself in your relationships? 

So, what is a healthy relationship?

A healthy relationship is about showing mutual respect. There are 6 components of a healthy relationship, which are (in no particular order):

  1. Accountability: Admitting mistakes or when wrong, accepting responsibility for behaviours, attitudes & values.
  2. Safety: Refusing to intimidate or manipulate, respecting physical space, expressing yourself in a non-violent way.
  3. Honesty: Communicate openly and truthfully.
  4. Support: Supporting each others choices, being understanding, offering encouragement, listening non-judgementally, valuing the other’s opinions.
  5. Cooperation: Asking for something, not expecting it. Accepting change. Making decisions together. Willing to compromise. Win/Win solutions to conflict.
  6. Trust: Accepting each others word. Giving the benefit of the doubt.

Remember that in every relationship, you have rights as well as responsibilities.

– Being treated as an equal
– Being respected
– Expressing your needs, emotions & feelings
– Having support
– Expressing different tastes, likes, opinions, ideas & dreams
– Having your own beliefs and values
– Having your own activities
– Seeing your family & friends
– Setting personal boundaries 
– Preserving your intimacy until YOU decide to share it
– Expressing your wants in a sexual relationship
– Saying NO to a sexual relationship
– Protecting yourself from an unwanted pregnancy and/or STI
– Feeling safe
– Ending the relationship
– Treating the other person as your equal
– Setting your limits
– Taking care of your wellbeing
– Listening to what the other person has to say
– Staying attentive to other’s needs
– Respecting the other person’s boundaries 
– Respecting other’s beliefs and values
– Supporting the other person
– Being respectful when resolving issues or a fight
– Sharing tasks, house chores, etc. 
– Maintaining your friends & family circle
– Keeping your intimacy and your personal space respected
– Being aware of your own safety & security 
– Getting help when you need it 
– Taking the necessary measures to protect yourself from an unwanted pregnancy and/or STI
– Expressing your needs, emotions & feelings

Be kind to one another!

Julia, Sexologist

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We are here to help you grow. To improve, maintain and restore your sexual health. To help keep this blog going, any contribution will be helpful.




Hi Readers! 

This week’s article is about intimacy and alternatives to sexual intercourse. In a world so focused on penetration, its important to explore what is beyond that. I’m sure you can find something amazing. 

Everyone lives their sexuality and intimacy in their own way, whichever way suits them best, however they feel comfortable. 

What does intimacy mean to you? (Yes, you need to answer this question now.)

How do you define intimacy? (Yessss, you need to answer this question, too.)

The concept of intimacy is defined in different ways. Sometimes, we think of intimacy as two people having sexual intercourse. Intimacy can be defined by nudity or solo sexual practices, like masturbation. For some, intimacy only refers to the sexual organs. 

For others, intimacy encompasses emotional proximity, sharing, self-revelation and specific experiences related to intimacy. Intimacy is about well-being, confidence in connection with affection, perception and cognitive state before, during and after the exchange of intimacy. This is what I want you to think about and figure out (if you haven’t explored it yet). 

Intimacy is a close, familiar and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group.

Sexuality is one of the core elements of what it is to be human. When we speak of sexuality, we speak of biological sex, sexual identity, sexual roles, sexual orientation, eroticism, pleasure, intimacy and reproduction. Sexuality is also expressed with thoughts, fantasies, beliefs, relationships, roles, practices, behaviour, and desires. 

What are alternatives to intercourse? 

– Being physically close and intimate  

– Touching, stroking, oral sex

– Kissing

– Massaging

– Talking

– Holdings hands, holding each other 

– Taking a bath together 

– Using sex toys and other accessories 

Communicate with yourself and/or your partner about your needs, fears, worries, feelings, what you like and what you don’t like. You may feel a little nervous at the start the conversation, but that’s okay. Your partner may feel the same way. Figure it out together, learn together. 

In early 2021, we will be publishing an intimacy course that you will be able to purchase if you are interested in diving deeper into the subject intimacy. We will explore the components of intimacy and skills to better integrate intimacy into your relationships. 

Be kind to one another!

Julia, Sexologist 

Julia, Sexologist Blog

We are here to help you grow. To improve, maintain and restore your sexual health. To help keep this blog going, any contribution will be helpful.